Toxic relationships: How to leave

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Welcome to Talks With Tia!

Today’s blog post is about how to leave a toxic relationship.

This is a very important topic, which I really wanted to discuss.

I hope that you take something away from this blog or find it useful.

This is mainly based on toxic relationships regarding romantic relationships. However, you can apply this knowledge to other types.

This is the 4th blog post I’ve done in my series of Toxic Relationships.

I’ve covered what the definition of one is, how to cope when in one, the signs etc.

Please feel free to check those out before this<3

(Part 4)

How to leave a Toxic Relationship?

•Acknowledge & Validate Own Feelings

The first part in leaving a toxic relationship is recognising the toxicity.

It’s important not deny or downplay the unhealthy balance of the relationship.

This is because you deserve happiness, trust and respect.

You’ve got to validate your own emotions.

Let yourself feel the sadness, pain, fear or anger that you’re experiencing.

And then, start working on accepting that you deserve to be living a healthy, happy and safe life.

•Build an support system

It’s important once you’ve acknowledged your feelings and the toxicity in your relationship.

To start building, YOU again.

A good place to start, is from building a support system.

A support system is made from trusted individuals. Like; friends, family or support groups.

I’ve written a lot on creating a support system in my previous blog, with the title ‘Toxic Relationships: How to Cope When In One?’

Please read it to find out more information.

•Make a safety plan

The first thing to do when you’re creating a safety plan, is to assess your safety.

Are you in immediate danger? What are the possibilities of the reaction to the plan?

It’s important when you’re coming up with a plan that it protects your safety.

When planning your exit, you’ve got to decide when and how you’ll leave the relationship. Where you’ll be once it ends, obviously the safest option.

Looking into finances is another thing to consider in your plan.

If you share accounts or property, it’s important to discretely make arrangements for financial freedom and independence.

•Communicate your decision

When you decide that it is the right time and place to leave. You can decide whether or not you’d like to express it to your partner.

If it is safe to, I would recommend expressing it to them.

If it’s not, then you must protect yourself in giving yourself that opportunity to leave without any further harm.

It’s important when deciding whether or not you’d like to discuss your feelings, to be prepared for their reaction.

Assess how your partner usually responds to conflict or other situations.

Then, plan for your going handle those when they arise. If you choose to speak to them about it.

Whilst explaining to them your feelings, emphasise your need for a safe and healthy life.

•Cut off contact

After leaving the relationship, whether expressing your decision or not, it’s key to limit your communication with them.

The only way you will heal and move forward is by doing that.

I would recommend blocking them.

If it’s not possible to block them, due to children or other responsibilities. You’ve got to unfollow them all on social media.

You must avoid further contact.

Once you feel ready to, please seek support.

Continue to lean into support and seek professional help if you need it.

A final note is that you should be really proud of yourself for finding the strength. To take action on this advice, or to even educate yourself more about it.

Focusing on your wellbeing and doing self-care are steps you can take to give yourself the love and respect you deserve.

I’ve spoken more in previous blog posts about all the steps to take to focus on your wellbeing.

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