MY STALKER

Hello.

Welcome to, or welcome back to Talks with Tia.

Today’s blog post is something a little different.

It’s something that, I’m currently going through and feel as though I should be sharing this story.

It’s important to me that I get this story out there.

I hope I can remind people of the real scary people in the world.

*For context* A boy that I live in a shared house with, has been stalking and harassing me.

So, it all began on the 27th of March 2025.

It was that afternoon that I had noticed, something was on the note I have on my shelf in the communal fridge.

He had wrote “The Same Tia from TikTok?”.

When I had originally saw the message on my note, I had no idea who it was.

I immediately felt anxious. I didn’t know how many people knew, had saw the note and who had done such a strange thing.

Luckily, it didn’t take very long to put two and two together that it was him.

As the next day, two minutes after I had posted a TikTok…he had liked it.

Once I had saw that he was the one who had done it, I blocked him immediately.

He has an online presence, some might say. And makes videos for TikTok too, so I was confused as to why he did this?

*For Context* Me and him had only had a few interactions, mostly him trying to scare me. And one conversation when he had first moved in, which was very awkward. He barely leaves his room so the contact we’ve had has been very limited.

It was the morning, when I had blocked him. And I didn’t hear a peep from him all day.

That was, until 10.30pm that night.

For some reason, that’s when he chose to harass me again, when I was about to go to bed.

I wanted to go toilet before going to sleep, so I went up the stairs.

As I was half way up, I hear him slowly open the door and whisper “Look who it is” in a weird voice.

I shouted back “f*ck off” and ran into the bathroom.

I started having a panic attack, as I was genuinely scared for what was to about to happen.

As that was happening, he was opening and slamming doors downstairs. Clearly frustrated with what I had said.

I was messaging my best friend, trying to build up the courage to go back downstairs.

When I had built up the courage, I started walking down the stairs and he started opening the door…

I said to him, “What?”.

He replied, “What?”.

I said, “You need to stop being a f**ing weirdo, and leave me alone”.

He said, “What do you mean? How am I being weird?”.

This made my blood boil, as I can’t believe someone can be such a horrible person.

I replied, “The whole situation with the note in the fridge and just then, it’s all just weird. You’ve pissed me off and crossed a boundary so don’t talk to me again”.

He said, “It was only meant to be a joke, but fair enough”.

I said “Yep”.

He said “Yep”.

And I walked away and back into my room, which is next door to his.

I was proud of myself for standing up for myself. And not letting someone feel as though they can make me feel uncomfortable, in a house that I’m living in too.

That’s when I had noticed, the YouTube video I was watching on my TV wasn’t playing anymore. It was a different video.

I was watching one of my most recent YouTube videos, as I wanted to see how it looked on a TV. I knew the video hadn’t finished as I wasn’t too far into it.

I had checked in my viewing history, and I had in fact definitely not finished the video as it was only about a quarter of the way in.

The most scary part of this, was the fact that the new video which was playing was, about the 10 most creepiest things that have happened.

It was only fair to assume, that it was him, who had gone into my room. Changed the video to that, and that was the slamming of the doors I had heard from upstairs.

I hoped that would be the end of it.

I had stood up to him, told him to leave me alone and screamed in his face, which I would have taken more of a warning than he chose to.

He chose to mess with the wrong woman.

But, in Tia’s world, it never just ends there.

I have a really good intuition, so around week ago, on the 13th of March.

I knew that for some reason I needed to check his TikTok.

He made not one, but two TikTok’s about the house.

The first video, was discussing the messiness and laziness of other people in the house. How he didn’t care that he lived with girls, so pees on the toilet seat.

The second video, was similar to the first talking about the hygiene of the house.

But, it soon turned into him talking about how he can’t stand ‘passive aggression’ and to just ‘talk to him’ if there’s any problems.

He then turns the camera around, recording my kitchen cupboard.

He reads the note, I had to leave in the cupboard, due to people stealing my stuff.

“PLEASE DON’T USE ANYTHING FROM THIS CUPBOARD FROM TIA:)”

He then says “I took one teabag dude. Like seriously, just talk to me”.

This is the second time that this 27 year old boy, not man, has personally attacked me for simply doing nothing wrong.

He had invaded my privacy, by not only going through my stuff but recording it for a TikTok.

Insulted the fact I had written the note, despite telling me to my face a month ago, that it wasn’t okay for people to steal my stuff.

Admitted to stealing something of mine, “ I took one tea bag dude” or whatever he wants to believe.

But, wants ME to just “speak to him”.

After all of the stress, torment and frustration he’s caused me.

I should have just talked to him right? And, that would have stopped him being a total weirdo?

I should have just known to speak to him, although I didn’t know it was him until he revealed it all.

How am I supposed to talk to somebody, about stealing my stuff, when I don’t know who’s doing it?

Am I supposed to just know?

It’s actually ridiculous to me, the whole concept of his videos and the logic he seems to have.

He’s the one, who’s making all the mess, causing problems in the household. Leaving pubic hair, in the sink, on the floor, in the bath.

Peeing on the toilet seat, and presumably was the one who was peeing right outside the doorstep for a week straight until I cleaned it.

He rarely leaves his room, other than to create mess for others or to cause problems.

The other day, he smashed a glass, left shards on the floor and chucked it into the bin bag for someone else to have to clean up.

He doesn’t do anything for the house, let alone keep anything in the kitchen. Just uses everyone else’s stuff and takes advantage of us all.

After I had saw the TikTok, I let a few other people in the house know about the whole situation between us.

As, it was clearly becoming something bigger than I could handle on my own.

I’m not sure if he had heard any of these conversations, but after I had spoken with some people.

He has slightly changed his approach.

He opens the window for his bedroom, whenever I’m sitting the garden, I’ve caught him watching me several times.

He’s been in the kitchen a couple times recently, when he knows I’m sitting outside.

I’ve bumped into him going in and out of the house a couple times, where he just stares at me and smiles.

I obviously try not to react to him and walk past with a straight face.

This behaviour is completely insane, and he seriously needs to get help.

Another reason for why I say he is insane, is because of the TikTok I saw he had posted yesterday.

*For context* He is a 27 year old man child, who pretends like he is still in university as his ‘bit’ on TikTok. Apparently,he works for them still, but I can’t tell if he’s just clinging on any type of connection he can have with being in university or being serious.

Towards the end of the video, he starts pretending like he’s talking to his dad about his experience about living at university. Is he seeing anyone? Does he like anyone?

He proceeds to tell his dad “I guess there is someone I quite like. Er, who I live with. They say don’t shit where you eat, but er. You can’t help who you like I suppose. No, not at uni, who I live with here. Talk about flat cest, I put the cest in flat cest. But, better to keep it in the family”.

This is clearly an insane man.

He doesn’t go to university anymore, let alone should be allowed near a university or any kind of school.

He knows deep down he’s not in university like his online persona, as he lets it slip with “No, not at uni, who I live with here”.

Any sane person, would understand that this behaviour is unacceptable and creepy.

I have not mentioned his name yet, but Alex, if you have made it this far. I hope this is the wake up call you need to go and get help.

No matter what issues, mental problems you need to deal with, it is not mine or anyone else’s responsibility to have to put up with them.

And if he’s not reading this, I hope that you found reading this insightful.

There are too many scary people out there, who are willing to stop at nothing, to make you feel uncomfortable.

And I will personally fight this, until he stops and realises what he’s done is wrong.

I will also support and fight, for anyone who’s going through something similar.

Thank you for reading today’s post.

Talks With Tia xox

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