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Dealing with negative thoughts

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Today’s blog post, I will be sharing about my experience with negative thoughts. And how I deal with those thoughts.

I would just like to start by mentioning, that today’s blog post is about suicidal thoughts, anxiety and depression.

If those topics are something which you are currently struggling with, and you wish to avoid, please feel free to miss out this one.

Recently, I have had a lot going on in my life. A lot of things which I have shared in my blog posts or YouTube videos, but there are a lot of things which I have purposefully left unsaid.

Life can be so chaotic.

It’s this constant rollercoaster, of things calming down and then suddenly erupting and burning down.

That’s how it feels to me anyway.

I feel like I have really tried the past couple years, to regain peace in the chaos.

I’ve done the work behind closed doors and I’ve come so far, as a person and as a woman.

However, life likes to humble us when we least expect it.

It’s continually testing my patience and strength.

Although, I’ve worked so hard to get to the place that I have. There are a lot of days, where I still struggle with suicidal thoughts and thoughts of loneliness and self hatred.

I think that is something, which not a lot of people would still know about me, or recognise in me.

But, I wanted to share this to help others.

A lot of the time, when I am having suicidal thoughts, it’s when I have multiple things going wrong at the same time.

It becomes overwhelming to the point, where I just want to make it stop.

In the moment, my mind is racing, I’m completely dissociated from my thoughts and body.

I start to take myself to these dark places, of which I used to live in.

What I mean by this is, when I really was at my lowest and weakest point, I lived in the darkest part of my mind all day, everyday.

After that point, I started working on what made life worth it for me, what made me feel safe, calm or relaxed.

The steps I had taken, are tools that I use now to deal with these episodes I suffer with.

I just wanted to note, that although the advice I’m about to give of how I deal with my mental struggles, each person is different.

It is extremely difficult to pick yourself up, when you’re at your lowest point, when you feel like there’s no point or you haven’t got the energy to try anymore.

But, each day is progress and eventually, we will all be able to get to a place where we can find peace in our chaos.

I’m going to start off with, the most important part of your wellbeing, taking care of yourself.

This takes many forms and shapes for all of us.

I like to do things for myself such as; getting off my phone/social media, going on walks and eating healthy/my favourite foods.

These are all forms of self love for me, as they help me ground myself and give me energy.

Another thing, I’ve recently started doing is, going out and enjoying the sun.

As somebody who has really struggled with anxiety and body dysmorphia, I’ve tried to avoid going out in the sun for many years.

It has been a massive trigger for me for many years, wearing summer clothes or wearing them out in public.

I’ve been bullied a lot in my life, for my body type or how my body looks.

The bullying and societal pressures, have caused me a lot of years of stress, trauma and mental strain in terms of how my body looks.

This is something I still struggle with, as it’s something that has been engrained into my brain since childhood.

We are taught, what the perfect type of body is, what’s attractive and ugly. All a bunch of nonsense created by equally just as insecure people.

That’s why, I’m sharing my experiences and am aiming to make a big change in the future of mental health.

I think it’s important, to deeply understand and love yourself, one day in your life.

I think we owe it to ourselves, to find that peace of mind.

I’ve managed to find some of that peace, in my chaotic life.

I’m continually trying to remind myself of all the positive things in my life.

In the dark moments, I try to regain control of my thoughts by being grateful yet understanding of all the progress I’ve made.

I take those moments to reflect myself, of all the times I thought everything was over, where I didn’t think I would make it, or I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Time obviously is a healer, but in those moments, it’s hard to really grasp that.

It feels like for me, that the feeling will never go away. That things are always going to be “broken” or “going wrong”.

That’s why, I have to remember to be grateful that, I made it through.

I got myself, along with the help of others, through those tough times.

So, my strength is unbreakable.

I’ve come back and forth, from the depths of hell in my mind, probably at least 10 times since I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression.

That is something I have to constantly remind myself of, in my episodes or in daily life.

If I could get through, probably the worst things I’ve ever had to face, I can be strong enough to face this and the rest life throws at me.

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Thank you for reading today’s blog post.

I hope that you found this helpful, and someone can relate to these feelings/experiences.

I would love to hear more from my readers, so please feel free to either leave a comment or message me with your thoughts and questions.

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Dealing with anxiety

Hi.

Welcome back or welcome to talks with tia.

Today’s topic is; dealing with anxiety.

Anxiety is a feeling of fear, unease or discomfort. It can range from mild to extremely intense.

I have struggled with anxiety, for around 7 years now.

And those 7 years have been extremely difficult, a feeling which only those who also struggle with anxiety can understand.

Each person’s individual anxieties are very complex and personal to them. As we all have different experiences, struggles and challenges in life.

But one thing, I have learnt is that talking and sharing our experiences with it helps others. As one thing that anxiety makes you feel, is very isolated.

A lot of the time, it can feel like your brain is working against you. As if, you’re the problem.

It’s your brain, so you can have control over it? But there are things we don’t have control over and that’s okay.

We are enough as we are. Not as what we dream to be. Or believe what other people think we should be.

But it’s not as simple as telling yourself you’re enough and believing in yourself.

Anxiety doesn’t just affect you mentally. It affects you physically, which can also range in intensity.

I personally have struggled with a range of different physical responses from anxiety.

One of those, is panic attacks. Panic attacks can take any shape or form, be about anything and again are personal to you.

A lot of the time when I have panic attacks, my brain goes into sensory overload. My thoughts start to race and spiral, if I don’t take control over them. My heart races, throat starts to close up and I completely lose sense of reality. I’ve learnt that this is called dissociation.

When I am having a panic attack, there are a few techniques I’ve found helpful. I will list these below.

•Breathing exercises (breathing in for 7, out for 7)

•Looking at my surroundings, is there any thing I can focus my mind on? For example, can I see any signs or words which I can count the letters of?

•Focusing on my breath and feeling the anxiety , rather than avoiding it

•Listening to music, podcasts or things that make me happy

•Going outside and focusing on my senses e.g. what can I smell, hear or see?

I’ve done a lot of reflection on what some of my triggers are for my anxiety. And those I continue to work on. However, sometimes it can come out of nowhere.

But that all leads back to the mental strength you have to build up for yourself. Because according to psychologists, the mind and the body are interlinked.

Another example of this is, stomach issues. I struggle a lot with the feeling of butterflies in your stomach and this sensation of being tense around my stomach and lower back.

I believe that I struggle with this because of my anxiety. As I have noticed that it is only there when I am stressed or anxious.

A way I manage my stress, is through doing things which I enjoy. A few things I enjoy are; Pilates, going for walks, being in nature and word searches.

Its great for your health and general wellbeing to find stuff that matters to you and gives you something to destress or motivate you.

Another thing that’s key for good wellbeing is you have to find the right support.

As humans, community is really important. The need for love and compassion and respect. But, in life, people don’t always have the best intentions and it’s important to recognise who is really there for the right reasons.

It’s essential in healing and discovering more about your anxiety to have people who understand you. But, it is okay if you feel like there is someone who isn’t.

There are helplines and people out there who are willing to help no matter what. I will dedicate a whole page to helplines and organisations for all kinds of help.

As you’re reading this, I hope you know that whatever you’re going through. You are not alone, and you deserve to be happy and proud of yourself.

I hope that you found this blog helpful and I hope that anything I’ve said makes one person feel less alone.

If there are any questions, or things you’d like me discuss further, please leave a comment or send me a DM.

Talks with Tia xoxo

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Finding yourself

Hi,

Welcome to talks with tia!

Today’s topic is finding yourself. I feel as though this is something which not many people speak about, or something that some people never conceptualise.

I do think that this has a lot to do with the fact that it takes a lot of time and effort.

I would like to start with what my personal experience of finding myself was like and how I got there.

I remember always being a shy yet confident child. I was always taught to stand up for myself, but was always put down if I did which made me lose that confidence.

I’ve struggled a lot in the past with bullying, mental health issues, abuse and other traumatic events. These all built up over my teenage years, to where I became what society wanted me to be.

I was constantly in toxic relationships and friendships because of the lack of stability in my life. And this is something I’ve only recently realised about myself.

After my last serious breakup and losing all relationships with my friends and family, I realised I wasn’t who I wanted to be for me anymore.

In my eyes, it had seemed like all these years I had been living for other people. But when it came down to it, I was the one choosing to follow someone else’s dream.

The first step that I took to find myself, was to stop living for other people. I tried to stop caring what other people thought, how they treated me and what they could think of me.

Once taking this first step, it made me go onto the second step. This was going back to my childhood.

I spent a lot of time reflecting on who I was, before all of the events of my teenaged years. The type of things I would do to keep me occupied, the mindset I had.

I was quite a strong minded kid. I believed I was capable of all my dreams and would one day make them happen.

This probably came from what I used to do to occupy myself, reading stories, watching tv and films, playing with Barbies and on the computer. I constantly lived in my own dream world.

So, that’s what I started to integrate into my life. Doing all the things I did as a kid. Even if it felt stupid or cringe, I did it so I could find what I loved again.

I fell back in love with reading, doing word searches and doing creative things. I watched all the films and listened to music I’ve not heard since childhood.

I even embraced going back on long walks and appreciating my surroundings. I loved looking at the flowers and soon realised that rivers are something that calm me down too. Something about the sound of the water is very soothing.

I could even take my dog with me on the walks. Those walks really bonded us together and I knew he would always be there for me.

Exercising was also another huge factor in feeling more myself. It was important to find one that I enjoyed as I usually wasn’t very interested in it. That’s when I started regularly doing pilates at home in my room.

I would really recommend Pilates to anyone. They are just so simple yet effective.

After doing all of these things for myself, I started to begin to see who I was and wanted to be coming in. I could finally figure out who Tia was or who I wanted to be.

I think a lot of other factors play a big part in my continuing journey to self discovery.

One of those was making sure I was surrounding myself with the right people. I think that a lot of people don’t always have the best intentions. They want to see you hurt and let down, yet pretend that they cherish the floor you walk on.

Finding my group, of my people. Was honestly the best thing that happened to me. I think all of these people know exactly who they are, so I won’t name any names.

These people gave me the confidence to feel the things I wanted to feel, work on the things I’ve been hiding from and be better for not only them but myself.

Another factor was trying to re-wire my brain. I tend to have quite a negative mindset naturally, which I think is due to my mental illnesses. And I wanted to change that.

Because it’s a sad world, when all you’re consumed with is how bad everything is and how much being an adult and life can be.

There is so much beauty in this world, and I think it’s part of your journey to figure out what that is. Whether like me, it’s hanging out with your animals, friends or going on walks by the river.

Something I will say is, the journey is not easy. And there are always good and bad days. But every day is a step closer to figuring it out.

I hope you enjoyed reading my thoughts and experience of finding yourself.

If there any questions you would like to ask me, or any topics you’d like me to cover.

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Talks With Tia xoxo